This article is about a practice, that two people can engage in, which combines the magic of a pure intimate sexual experience with deep emotional trauma work to facilitate unprecedented degrees of true healing and raise their general condition of love.
Attempting to convey in a single image what this practice is, imagine for a moment a naturally occurring super-intense primal therapy session (i.e. where emotional pain and trauma is brought to the surface for release), occurring during a powerful energetic sexual experience with a partner, so that the alchemical power of your combined sexuality can transform the greatest of pain into the most unimaginable pleasure. And if that all sounds a bit woo woo, just think best sex ever and read on some more!
Sitting here writing this article after what has been a very interesting day, it's hard to comprehend that I’ve never heard of this as a practice before – nowhere in the annals of Tantra lore does sexual primal therapy, to the best of my knowledge, rear its head!
To explore this final frontier and discover the delights of this particular treasure for yourself, you will need:
- One conscious partner with whom you have a strong and clean sexual connection
- A willingness to feel emotional pain without resistance
- A substantial emotional injury… that is in the full swing of being felt and experienced by one of the partners, and
- A healthy dose of mutual trust
NOTE: be sure your partner is equal to this – baring your deepest emotional weaknesses to, at the same time as you engage sexually with, someone who cannot honour or love you is asking to make your problems a lot worse… conscious lovers only please!
If you struggle understanding any of the concepts presented in this article, please read Natural Law’s Direct Path to Healing Trauma first for a proper foundation in the emotional healing process that it builds upon.
So to set some context here – when I say ‘primal therapy’ I mean a natural outflowing of suppressed emotion (the kind that arises naturally from the soul when one has actually made the choice to face the full truth of themselves and usually takes weeks to process), not a contrived effort at emotional healing that is brought to an end after 90 minutes on a psych couch.
Now that kind of true release of emotion is a rare thing – not many people are willing to go that deep… which is sad because it is on the other side of it that true liberation lies, so my hope is that the here advertised delights of what I’m coining ‘Primal Sexual Healing' may tempt a few extra peeps out of new age wonderland and over the starting line of the REAL ascension path… maybe seeing that there can be more pleasure in pain than there is in boring plain-old pleasure may titillate your fancy sufficiently to have you topple off the proverbial fence in goggle-eyed excitement (should that be where you find yourself)? Or maybe this is just an interesting 3 minute diversion from an otherwise monotonous day? Either way, let's get down to business… Primal Sexual Healing…
So really there is not much to it. It’s an opportunist’s game – for when you are deep in the middle of your core emotions… a heavenly watering hole in the bleak desert of emotional trauma work. And it’s incredibly simple – when either you or your partner finds yourselves processing deep childhood trauma following a natural process like the one aluded to here, you come together and make love.
Now this is not about sex, it’s about sexual energy, so you can give yourself permission to leave your psychological insecurities at the door if you have them. You can also drop the emotionally needy or pleasing sex if you’re prone to either of those – this is just sexual energy that you’re going to share and circulate so that the intense emotional pain that one of you is processing is sucked out of existence through the zero-point of your alchemical sexual fire… nothing to prove, nor standards to meet. Just let it flow.
This not being about sex, and all about sexual energy, let’s talk about the difference – it is huge. Sexual energy is something you can move between yourself and your partner without penetration. It can be made physical by penetration, or by touch, or by simply sitting within each other’s auric field, but none of those things are necessary. Sexual energy can be exchanged over any distance. If you have a partner with whom you have a strong sexual connection, I highly recommend practicing exchanging sexual energy between you when you are not together. Explore sharing the energy you have moving through your body, and use something like Messenger or Skype to intermittently chat about your experiences so you learn and grow. Practice moving the energy around your own body, and between each other. This is THE best way to master your sexuality. And it’s about the most fun thing you can do – sexual exploration with a partner who is equally excited about this new frontier, and with practice you're gonna get really good really fast. Create some physical resistance – if you have a strong sexual attraction with your partner, try not having sex (or at least less often) for a while and only exchange energy in this way. It’s not about abstinence – it’s about mastering the sexual energy in your body and soul, so you can take ALL your sexual experiences to a whole new level. Believe me… it’ll be worth it! And it doesn’t mean you’re going to have to let go of physical sex, or that that is even a goal… that would be silly. It’s just opening up a more profound channel of pleasure and enhancing the channels you already have.
There is no rulebook here – so make it up as you go along and explore. A few suggestions though – 1. If you are physically present and intimate with each other, keep the physical movement to a minimum – this is about playing with the energy between you. 2. Don’t rush – you’ll want a good few hours for this. 3. Neither partner should be engaged in pleasing the other – this is a personal practice… like meditation or Kung Fu. 4. The less attachment the better. Just give your attention to the energy that is present, enjoy it and play with it.
So there you have it – Sexual Primal Therapy. Not only does it burn through what would otherwise normally take many weeks of intense pain to release from the soul in just a few hours, leaving (at least one of) you significantly more liberated at the soul level, it also heightens the sexual experience to a degree that there are few words to describe. But then what else gives the greater meaning to life’s experiences than contrast? And what happens when you add the best thing that god ever invented (the orgasm) right on the back of the most painfully transformative experience there is? You got it – contrast!
So next time you're looking for a gift of love, don’t forget, the very best thing you can give to your partner is a world of pain!